Balancing Flexibility and Boundaries as a Neurodivergent Business Owner

A conversation that’s come up a few times recently is balancing flexibility and boundaries. On one hand, we recognise the importance of setting boundaries to preserve our well-being and avoid burnout. On the other hand, being self-employed grants us the freedom to embrace flexibility. We can tailor our work schedules to suit our individual needs, ditching the rigid 9-to-5 routine for a more personalised approach. So, how do you make both work when it comes to being neurodivergent and running a business?

Here’s an example:

You want to set a boundary where you don’t work evenings BUT you want to embrace flexibility by going to the gym or for a walk at lunch and therefore want to catch up on work in the evening….going against your boundary.

Then you feel torn, so now what?

Embracing Flexibility

As a business owner with ADHD, I've come to realise that flexibility is a fundamental element for our creative minds. We don't fit the conventional mould and that's absolutely fine! Embracing our unique workstyles and quirks can lead to great results.

For instance, some of us might be night owls, with our brains sparking to life in the evenings. Others thrive when working in short bursts, taking mini breaks in between tasks. Embracing our natural rhythm and incorporating it into a flexible schedule can unleash our productivity.

Finding the Sweet Spot: Non-Negotiable Boundaries

Now, let's talk about those non-negotiable boundaries. These are the guiding principles we establish to keep our ADHD brains on track and our businesses thriving. Consider them as guardrails on a winding road, preventing us from veering off course.

So, taking the example above about working evenings. You know you work well in the evening, but you also want to protect your time an energy and not work EVERY evening.

The sweet spot would be setting a non-negotiable boundary that you ONLY work 2/3 evenings a week and then you allow flexibility for the other evenings to work.  

The Art of Setting Non-Negotiable Boundaries

While flexibility is essential, non-negotiable boundaries are equally crucial for maintaining a healthy work-life balance. Establishing these boundaries might feel challenging at first but once you put them firmly into place, they become your pillars of support. Here are some practical steps to implement non-negotiable boundaries effectively:

1. Communicate Your Boundaries: Let your clients, team members and loved ones know about your boundaries. Open communication is key to ensuring that others understand and respect your needs.

2. Set Work Hours: Decide on specific work hours that align with your peak productivity times. Stick to these hours as consistently as possible and avoid the temptation to work outside them.

3. Create a Dedicated Workspace: Designate a specific area for work, free from distractions. This space will act as a mental trigger for your brain to shift into work mode.

4. Prioritise Tasks: Focus on essential tasks and delegate or postpone non-urgent ones. By setting clear priorities, you prevent overwhelm and maintain focus on what truly matters.

5. Learn to Say "No": Saying "no" can be challenging but it's necessary to protect your time and energy. Remember, every "no" is a "yes" to what truly matters to you and your business.

6. Schedule Downtime: Just as you schedule work tasks, schedule downtime too. Whether it's spending quality time with family, pursuing hobbies or simply relaxing, this time is vital for recharging your mind and body.

Tailoring Flexibility and Boundaries to your ADHD Needs

As a business coach for fellow ADHD business owners, I encourage you to recognise your unique needs. We are all wired differently and what works for one may not work for another. It's a process of trial and error to find what suits you best.

Remember, we have the freedom to build businesses that reflect our passions and strengths. Embrace your ADHD, acknowledge the challenges and create a business that celebrates your authenticity, incorporating flexibility and non-negotiable boundaries in a way that works for you.

Here are some practical tips to help you find what works best for you:

1. Experiment and Observe: Take the time to experiment with different routines and schedules. Observe how you feel and perform during these trials. Pay attention to what energises you and what drains you.

2. Seek Support and Accountability: Don't hesitate to seek support from friends, family or even a business coach. Having someone who understands your unique challenges can offer valuable insights and keep you accountable in maintaining your boundaries.

3. Be Kind to Yourself: Remember that finding the right balance between flexibility and boundaries is an ongoing process. There will be times when you stumble and that's okay. Be kind to yourself and use these experiences as learning opportunities.

4. Celebrate Your Wins: Celebrate every victory, no matter how small. Acknowledge the progress you've made in finding the balance that works for you and your business.

“Embrace Your Unique Dance”

As a small business owner with ADHD, the dance between flexibility and non-negotiable boundaries can be both challenging and rewarding. By harnessing the power of both aspects, you can create a business that thrives while also prioritising your well-being.

Be patient with yourself. Embrace your unique neurodivergent style and celebrate every step you take towards finding the balance that suits you best. With the right combination of flexibility and boundaries, your small business will soar to new heights and you'll achieve success on your own terms. Keep dancing and keep thriving!

If you want to explore what boundaries you could be setting and how to embrace flexibility in your business i.e. finding your sweet spot – I would love you to book a discovery call with me to chat more and explore possibilities that may work for you and your business.

*This blog has been written with the help of Jenny Palmer from JPcontentandcopy